Here's what I did to "escape" without wine...
In the early days of riding the waves of cravings, I, too, wanted to check out. I wanted to numb. I wanted to escape.
And so here's what I did-
Drumroll please....
I went to bed.
Listen, I know this sounds easy, and if you're rolling your eyes while reading this, I get it. But in the early days of sobriety, I would take a melatonin around 8:30, and I'd go to bed.
I would wake up at 5 AM feeling so good, ready to have a delicious cup of coffee and snuggle on the couch with my dog in my reading spot.
Those early mornings became the highlight of my day instead of the wine-infused nights spent watching the same episode of Real Housewives over and over.
I also found that going to bed early was a way of escaping the hard craving hours. In those early days, I didn't have the skills to sit with complex emotions as much as I do now (although I am 100% a work in progress, and this still requires significant patience and practice.) So, going to bed was a way of escaping in the early days.
Going to bed also accomplishes a lot of other jobs that we assign to alcohol:
Looking for a reward at the end of the day? A good, deep sleep is a gift.
Looking for rest/relaxation? Well, that's pretty self-explanatory. And a good night's sleep will pay dividends the next day.
Coping with something hard? Everything feels more manageable after a good night's sleep.
And good sleep was one of the biggest, immediate benefits I felt when I ditched booze.
So when in doubt, my friend- GET IN BED. Shut those beautiful eyes. Dose yourself up with some melatonin or magnesium, and start dreaming again.
Do you love sober sleep as much as I do?